Negotiation Deadlines The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

When you set deadlines in your negotiations, do you consider the good, the bad, and the possible ugly effects that might occur? Do you consider the path upon which you set the negotiation on once a deadline is imposed? Negotiation deadlines can be a catch 22 if not used and planned for appropriately.

This article gives insights to consider, regarding how you can use deadlines effectively in your negotiations.

Negotiation Tip: Never invoke deadlines aimlessly in your negotiations, and always attempt to have a plan in place to deal with the negotiation if the deadline passes without the action you seek being acted upon.

The Good:
When considering how to apply a deadline from a positive perspective, you can casually mention that another person, activity, etc. will occur at a particular point; that point being if the deadline occurs and a certain action is not met. You can also position the deadline as being out of your control, because a ‘higher authority’ is controlling it. By positioning your deadline in this manner, you’ve conveyed that you’re not the ‘power’ imposing it and you’re only following the directions you’ve been given. You’re innocent. You can also use this positioning to entice the other negotiator to partner with you to work on getting the negotiation completed before the deadline occurs.

The Bad:
The bad aspect of setting deadlines is what occurs if the deadline comes and goes without the action sought occurring. Then what do you do? First, never set deadlines so tightly that you leave yourself in a proverbial corner from which it’s hard to extricate yourself, if the deadline passes. Leave yourself some wiggle room. As an example, don’t state that an offer will be removed from the negotiation, if that offer is a pivotal part of what you seek from the negotiation. In essence, be selected about what you attach to a deadline and be sure it doesn’t hurt you if it’s not met. In addition, to gain more leverage with the deadline, associate it to something that the other negotiated needs/wants. The more he needs/wants what’s associate to the deadline, the greater your leverage will be.

The Ugly:
Deadlines create tension. The closer the deadline looms, the more tension is created and generated. This can raise the tension level in the negotiation. During such times negotiators can become unglued, uncontrollable, and unforgiving. As such, some negotiators may become steadfast and commit irrational actions that cause the negotiation to go in unforeseen directions. To the degree you have alternate plans in place to deal with such occurrences you can maneuver. To the degree you haven’t made such plans, call a time out and get away from the negotiation table. During such times, you need to let the tension level erode before re-engaging in the negotiation. The one thing you don’t want to do is appease the other negotiator during such times by capitulating to his demands. Doing so will only embolden him to use this ploy going forward.

Deadlines can be a strategic tool to employ during negotiations. Going forward, place yourself in a position whereby you use deadlines advantageously. By keeping the thoughts above in mind before setting deadlines in your negotiations, you’ll come out further ahead… and everything will be right with the world.

Remember, you’re always negotiating!

Ideal and Exclusive 50th and 60th Birthday Present Ideas

There are so many forms of gifts that have come into the market that it has become very difficult for the people to pick up one. In fact, when it comes to the 60th birthday present ideas or 50th birthday ideas, it is found to be even more difficult. Most of people face problems while selecting the gifts for their parents or grandparents or their older growing friend because it seems tough to guess that what type of gift would he like. However, in this case, it is always advised to choose something that shows your care and affection towards them. The people stepping towards being senior citizens are not very fond of materialistic things as they enjoy all the materialistic comfort in their young age. The only thing that they want is security during their old age not only in financial terms, but also emotionally secure.

The very first thing that strikes the mind while thinking about the 50th birthday ideas or the 60th birthday present ideas is to gift them something that could cherish the memories of their lifetime. The items that can be preferred over here may include the photo albums, photo frames, etc. There are digital frames that have come into the market and are catching the attention of many gift givers as they have become the first choice of the recipients. You can also give it a personalized touch by preparing a collage containing the memorable photos for the recipient. You also have an option of adding the messages or any special poem or other item through which you could convey your expressions to them.

If the celebrant is a music lover or a movie lover, you can give him a collection of CDs and DVDs containing his favorite music and movies. The recipients can be given some of the adventurous items such as an adventurous vacation to his or her particular place where they could go with their life partners. This is among the 50th birthday ideas as well as 60th birthday present ideas that will provide them sometime to relax. The most precious gift for them would be if you spend some time with them on their special days to make it precious and memorable for them.

In addition to this, it must be noted that online gift availability has made it easier for the people to choose the unique and the perfect item from the wide range of varieties offered for 50th birthday ideas along with the 60th birthday present ideas.

Weight Loss and Life Occur in the Present

Weight Loss and Life Occur in the Present

Someone, I am not quite sure of the author, once said, “Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift – that is why we call it the present.” Anyone who has ever lost weight has been faced with that moment where he or she was forced to make a decision, to move through an obstacle, to conquer a fear. To lose weight you must live in the present.

I met a man today. The man was about my height but he weighed perhaps close to 400 pounds. After we engaged in small talk for several moments, I asked him whether we was ready to change his life and his weight. He wasn’t. Maybe I wasn’t the one to deliver the message to this man, perhaps mine was not even the correct message for him. Perhaps the time was not perfect for him.

How much of your life is lost either dwelling on the past or worrying about the future? When your thoughts are imprisoned by the past or fearful of the future you miss out on one of life’s greatest gifts: that which is happening today and indeed this very moment.

When your mind (and therefore your energy) is focused on yesterday or tomorrow, your involvement in the present moment is impoverished and today passes you by as a squandered opportunity or an unnoticed stranger.
How often have you felt yourself being pulled back by yesterday? “I’ll never be able to lose weight. I’ve always struggled with my weight. I want to change but I’m scared to move on,” I have said all of these things to myself. Perhaps you have said those same things to yourself. Perhaps the man I spoke with today said those very things to himself. Perhaps not.

The reality is that when you are hoping and praying your weight will change by grasping onto what was or what may be some day – your ability to move forward will be confined by your inability to make the most of today. Throw off the shackles of fear, indecisiveness, uncertainty and free yourself for the life that awaits you.

The key is putting your effort into today. Putting your effort into the present moment. By doing so, you will reap the rewards of seeing the world in a fundamentally new and fresh way. Awareness of the present will provide you with a feeling of control of your life. You must feel that you have some degree of control over your life before you can really deal with your weight.

We all enjoy reminiscing about the past and planning for the future, but after you’ve done so, let these things go. Today is what really matters, irrespective of how imperfect it might seem. It is your attitude, your intention, your focus towards today that counts.

You may have control over very little today but one thing is for certain – you can choose pay close attention to the present. For example, the next time a stranger approaches you and strikes up a conversation quell the storm by reining in your mind and your actions to that moment, the present. Find your way back to the perfect present and the world will open up to you with all of today’s wonderful opportunities.

Oh, by the way, yesterday, I met another man while standing in line. He was morbidly obese. We made small talk, I asked him the question, “Is today the day you change your life and your weight?” He said, “Yes.”