Weight Loss and Life Occur in the Present

Weight Loss and Life Occur in the Present

Someone, I am not quite sure of the author, once said, “Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift – that is why we call it the present.” Anyone who has ever lost weight has been faced with that moment where he or she was forced to make a decision, to move through an obstacle, to conquer a fear. To lose weight you must live in the present.

I met a man today. The man was about my height but he weighed perhaps close to 400 pounds. After we engaged in small talk for several moments, I asked him whether we was ready to change his life and his weight. He wasn’t. Maybe I wasn’t the one to deliver the message to this man, perhaps mine was not even the correct message for him. Perhaps the time was not perfect for him.

How much of your life is lost either dwelling on the past or worrying about the future? When your thoughts are imprisoned by the past or fearful of the future you miss out on one of life’s greatest gifts: that which is happening today and indeed this very moment.

When your mind (and therefore your energy) is focused on yesterday or tomorrow, your involvement in the present moment is impoverished and today passes you by as a squandered opportunity or an unnoticed stranger.
How often have you felt yourself being pulled back by yesterday? “I’ll never be able to lose weight. I’ve always struggled with my weight. I want to change but I’m scared to move on,” I have said all of these things to myself. Perhaps you have said those same things to yourself. Perhaps the man I spoke with today said those very things to himself. Perhaps not.

The reality is that when you are hoping and praying your weight will change by grasping onto what was or what may be some day – your ability to move forward will be confined by your inability to make the most of today. Throw off the shackles of fear, indecisiveness, uncertainty and free yourself for the life that awaits you.

The key is putting your effort into today. Putting your effort into the present moment. By doing so, you will reap the rewards of seeing the world in a fundamentally new and fresh way. Awareness of the present will provide you with a feeling of control of your life. You must feel that you have some degree of control over your life before you can really deal with your weight.

We all enjoy reminiscing about the past and planning for the future, but after you’ve done so, let these things go. Today is what really matters, irrespective of how imperfect it might seem. It is your attitude, your intention, your focus towards today that counts.

You may have control over very little today but one thing is for certain – you can choose pay close attention to the present. For example, the next time a stranger approaches you and strikes up a conversation quell the storm by reining in your mind and your actions to that moment, the present. Find your way back to the perfect present and the world will open up to you with all of today’s wonderful opportunities.

Oh, by the way, yesterday, I met another man while standing in line. He was morbidly obese. We made small talk, I asked him the question, “Is today the day you change your life and your weight?” He said, “Yes.”

How to Stay in the Present Mind, Control Anger, Nerves & Emotions in Golf

To stay in the present moment means that you have no concern for the outcome of the shot you are playing. You are so completely focussed on the task at hand that your mind is completely occupied, your body relaxed and you can play the shot confidently without worry. In the present your mind does not wander from the task at hand and think about bad results of a shot or past poor performances.

One of the big problems with not being in the present moment is that the golfer may allow their conscious mind to go back in time and think about a past poor performance and negative events, which lowers their confidence and ability to hit the shot confidently. An example of this would be: “I have missed a short putt just like this one twice already today, I don’t want to miss this one too!”

Just as bad is allowing your mind to wander into the future and worry about playing badly, or the consequences if you hit a bad shot. An example of this would be: “If I miss this putt then I lose the hole and match!”

Staying in the present mind is to be so completely absorbed in the moment that there is no room for past or future thinking that interferes with performance. A fairly simple sounding thing to do but far from it in reality unless you are a Zen Master!

The problem is that we have a part of our brain that is attempting to protect us in a rather bizarre way by warning us of past poor performance in the hope we don’t repeat it. “Watch out! Don’t slice it in the woods here!” may be a well intentioned warning but it’s very unhelpful when we are trying to stay calm, confident and in the zone I’m sure you will agree!

It is not that we want our minds to stop warning us of potential problems but untimely warnings that actually spoil performance can be done without. After all you would not want your mind forgetting to warn you about stepping in front of a bus now would you? A bad shot can bring humiliation, disappointment and anger so it is little wonder that our minds want to warn us against doing anything that could have a negative outcome, especially if it may be humiliating. We fear humiliation worse than death so it’s a powerful emotion that your mind wants to avoid.

Golf by it’s very nature is one of those sports where there is a lot of down time between shots and ample opportunity to get thinking about possible problems. In a sport that is fast paced and constantly moving you will become very focussed on the game and have no time for your mind to wander to “What if!”.

All sports have some time at some point to allow thinking to wander but golf is also a game where the ball is always stationary when it is played and our thoughts can wander negatively virtually all the time. Sports like tennis allow thoughts to wander between points but while the games are underway where actual shots are hit the players are much more absorbed naturally in the present. They will still need to keep their mind focussed between points, games and sets but sports like golf or snooker, pool and some others are even more challenging.

The faster the pace of the game means less opportunity for your mind to wander out of the present time at the crucial moment, just as the ball (or other object such as a puck) is played.

Developing a deep focus ability in order to control your thinking and keep the mind focussed in on specifics like targeting is ultimately a learnable skill. The technique called “anchoring” from the field of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is a highly effective at triggering and controlling your emotional states by the Mental Game of Golf Now we have much more control.

The answer for most of us is to develop very solid pre-shot routines and back them up with NLP for Golf Techniques, daily visualisation of how you want to perform on every shot. Visualising yourself full of confidence and deeply focussed In The Zone every time you step onto a tee would be a great idea wouldn’t it? Can you imagine going into a confident state and being really focussed almost automatically just by walking onto the teeing ground?

Starting Your Presentation Like a Pro

I want to make sure that you understand that the introduction to your speaker presentation is not called the opening. This introduction is also not your life biography. Largest way too many speakers that think that their life bio is what should be read before the speak curse reaches the podium. A speaker’s introduction really should not be taken lightly, if someone wants to know your bio I’m sure they can read in the program of defendant handout. The importance of the speaker’s introduction is often overlooked. Think about the introduction sets the stage for the speaker.

Here’s what your intro should answer:
- Why are you speaking about this particular subject?
- Are you qualified to speak about what you’re about to speak about?
- And of course why now?

You want to answer why the subject that you’re going to be speaking about is relevant and of the interest to the audience you’re speaking to. So you’re really answering the WI I FM to the audience what’s in it for me because that’s what your audience is asking themselves right before you reach the podium to start your speech. Of course you could always add a number of things which rule help the audience perceive you as an authority on the subject you’re about to speak about. For example mention your work experience, of life experience, awards and any other accomplishments which make you an authority to speak about this subject you’re talking about. So not only is important for you to actually write down this introduction that you want said before your speech. You might want to get a hold of who ever will be doing the introduction to your speech. Make sure they have a clear copy of what you want said before your talk starts.

People remember the beginning and end of every single interaction and talk and you want to make sure that the beginning of your talk is memorable.